Most parents want the best for their children, what can you do as a parent that will contribute to creating more ease for you and empower you children to be greater?
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Dr. Pat: Hey everybody
welcome, what a great show we’ve got planned for you. I love it when Glenna
Rice is in the house. You know one of
the most profound things that I’ve learned in the past couple of years is
understanding about the world of possibilities and how that world can manifest
through questions. What is it about ourselves that continues to try to solve
the problem at the level of the problem.
Each and
every one of us gets to look at our lives in many, many different ways. Today
is really about looking at our lives by asking questions, questions that could
be as simple as- what else is possible here?
Or a little bit more complicated and that’s why Glenna Rice is joining
us here today.
What
are three things that great parents do differently? What are three things that great parents do differently? Most parents want the best for their
children, what can you do as a parent that will contribute to creating more
ease for you and empower your children to be greater. Isn’t this really the
question for us?
Glenna
is someone who travels all over the world, she has an ongoing monthly tele-call
Questionable Conversations with Glenna Rice, and you’ll find out why in a
minute. She does events, and classes on whether or not we can clearly
understand our body, the messages in it. She teaches The Access Bars which is a
foundation in level one and that is going to be happening in Seattle.
We’ve
got some cool things happening in Seattle in December and January, we’re going
to hear about that. As an Access Consciousness
facilitator, it’s not just traveling the world but it’s also traveling the
world and watching a level of awakening that happens within each of the people
that she gets to work with and help.
That
has been so important for me, one of the most significant questions I’ve
learned in my lifetime is asking the question especially when I’m in the middle
of a big conundrum. Whether it’s with a child, whether it’s with a parent,
whether it’s with the radio show, whether it’s with a produce is what else is
possible here baby. I added the baby.
Glenna,
welcome to the show.
Glenna Rice: Hi Dr. Pat.
This show is always so wonderful.
Dr. Pat: You
couldn’t have planned this any better. You actually had a real life event
happen here on the show right?
Glenna: Yeah.
Dr. Pat: But I’m
saying isn’t it interesting what shows up, so three things. I wanted you to
comment before we even jump into this, I’ve touched upon the idea of living in
the question. I would love for the many, many people now that probably have not
heard you on this show because we have a new syndication.
I
want us to stop for a minute and talk about Access Consciousness and how this
works. When I say Glenna has Questionable Conversations there may be many
people that don’t know what that is. I
would love for you to talk about this for a minute.
Glenna: Okay cool.
Access
Consciousness is a body of work, it’s work that allows you to be you. There’s a whole bunch of questions, tools,
processes and ways you can start accessing which is why it’s got this really
cool name Access, accessing you. It’s pragmatic tools, easy tools, sometimes they’re
so easy they don’t make sense to people.
Part
of it is being willing to be a question all the time when things aren’t working
for you and change it. Being a question with you so you can start to become
more aware of who you are. You have to
question, you’re not looking for answers you’re looking for possibilities or
you’re looking for doors to open that you can crack through and start creating
changes. You’re looking for awareness, is what the questions are giving you is
more awareness about everything.
You
have more awareness about you and about everything going on in your life, than
you really have choice to choose the things that are working for you, get rid
of the things that aren’t working for you. My monthly tele-call is Questionable
Conversations, it’s a conversation with participants about different topics-
often about the body. Where we start to look at the things that aren’t working
for us and how to change it, we do clearing statements and other tools from
Access are all a part of it.
It’s
an amazing call, I have so much fun with it. The participants the way they
contribute, everybody’s contributing what they know. Really access is about
empowering you to know that you know and to be who you are.
Dr. pat: I really
wanted to talk about this before we jump right into the conversation. I have to
tell you, I’m not an expert at this but I’ve learned a few things along the way
thanks to you and Gary, and Access Consciousness. One of the things that I’ve learned and I’d
love for you to talk about this is all of a sudden I’m in the middle of what
could be a potential disastrous day right.
How do I know that? Because I
know what they’re like.
Then
I remember and I don’t really have your
toolbox, I have a couple of go to things and today we’re going to give people
more tools. Then I go to wait a minute Pat, what else is possible here? Then
you have guided me to also enable myself to ask that every 10 seconds.
Can
you tell me about that? Because the thing I was always struck by is, wait a
minute once we get a level of awareness that’s it we’re good to go. But if I
ask in this moment, what else is possible here?
How does this process of exploration through the question enable me to
build upon awakening and awareness?
Glenna: That’s a
good question, that’s a really easy one.
There’s
infinite possibilities all the time, you can always have more possibilities.
It’s not something that ends, you don’t just become aware and awakened and everything
stops and you’re aware and awakened. You’re
creating your life and you’re being, and doing, and generating things all the
time. This reality is pretty funky.
Our
relationships are funky, our families are funky, our jobs are funky there’s
weird stuff that’s going on. There’s stuff that stops us in our tracks all the
time. These tools allow you to not be stopped in your tracks. What’s possible is always available for
everything that shows up, there’s always another possibility.
We
have so many fixed points of views and we buy into other people’s points of
view, and we worry about what other people think, and we have judgements about
stuff. All of that stops us from seeing
what’s actually true. We’re seeing
what’s there and what’s possible because judgements, decisions, and
conclusions, and fixed points of views don’t allow you to access awareness because
you can’t see anything that doesn’t match your point of view.
Even
the most enlightened of beings have things that show up in their world that
probably stops them in their tracks. They have a fixed point of view or they
get someone else’s point of view and they don’t even know if it’s theirs or
not. These tools allow you to get rid of those things and start seeing what
works.
What
else is possible gives you access to the infinite possibilities. You’re also
asking another great question of how does it get better than this, which is
another amazing tool of access. You’re always looking for what’s better, more
or creating more in your life. That’s not something people do often is look for
what’s great, we often get fixated on the stuff that’s not working.
Dr. Pat: Let’s
talk about enlightened beings for a minute. I’m referring to parents of course,
what are three things great parents differently. We really do believe at some
level that parents are supposed to be the pillar of perfection, perhaps
enlightened and then we turn around with not only a high expectation but the
ability to disappoint.
I’m
kind of wrapping it together because three things great parents do differently,
the first question would be my gosh are there even really any great
parents? It’s that journey right that we
go down to figure out what does that mean to even be a great parent? How does one get to really understanding what
a great parent even looks like Glenna?
Glenna: Yeah,
that’s a great question and what’s an enlightened being? I actually couldn’t
tell you what an enlightened being is, I just threw the word out. It has a lot
of judgment attached to it.
Great
parents what do they do? There’s ways of being a parent that empower your
children and you don’t stop your life at the same time. You are able to acknowledge your children’s
abilities and capacities and be an energy that facilitates that for them. Not
an energy that stops what’s possible for them.
A
great parent is someone who’s able to be aware of their children, be aware of
their life not stop their life and be there for what their children require,
when they require it- not give them more than what they require. Also just
willing to be the kind of parent that works for them and their family, not a
parent you’re supposed to be but a parent that works for you which is a really
different thing.
What
society and coaches tell us all the time about what a parent should be changes,
you’re supposed to be bear the rod and spoil the child back 100 years ago. Now if you’re even angry with your children
in public you’re considered a bad parent so it’s always changing.
A
great parent for me is someone who empowers their children to be greater and
also is doing that for themselves.
Dr. Pat: Today’s
conversation is a conversation that each of us can have about not just
understanding what great parents do but what do they do differently. What does this really mean some of these
things that Glenna just pointed out. And then the question is how do we move
towards that? How do we strive towards
that?
We’re
going to take a short break and when we come back it’s a very big conversation.
I want to make sure all of you know if you’ve got something going on out there,
if you want to get some information phone lines are open- 1-800-9302-2819. If
you’d like to ask a question you can go to transformationtalkradio.com, write
on that page and type in your question, and those questions will come up. We’ll
be able to get them on air.
When
we come back what does empowered mean?
And would we ever give up control to enable our children to become
empowered, that’s all from Glenna Rice today. Stay tuned, we’ll be right back.
Welcome
back everyone, welcome back. Glenna Rice is in the house and for those of you
out there just go to her website glennarice.com, and also we’ve got some
information a very special announcement
that we’re going to share with you in a little bit. Glenna thank you for today’s show.
Looking
at three things that great parents do differently. There’s a little bit of
confusion and I think it’s really a conversation. What I talked about before
was empowering kids right, and I think there’s confusion about wait a minute
empowering kids I don’t really get that. Do I empower them or do I discipline
them?
Glenna: A great
question again. This is when the real
different thing when I talk about discipline could definitely be something that
empowers your children. Knowing what they can and can’t do, kids can choose
things that don’t work for them and aren’t working for their future, and aren’t
going to work for their life. By
empowering them you actually have an awareness of what would work for them,
what they could choose to empower their life and you’re there to create a
future for them.
You’re
there to facilitate those possibilities and discipline could definitely be
something that falls into that category of facilitating greatness in your
children. When we become rigid with it,
it then becomes a problem. When we have too many rules, and too many
regulations and too much control.
Because when you have control of anybody or anything in your life you
can’t have the ability to follow the energy that works because the control stops
it. You need to be out of control to
follow the energy.
Discipline
can often have a really controlling way about it but you know my daughter she
just recently had a whole Instagram- I don’t know what they were chatting on.
One of those IM things, she got her new iPhone and she’s 12 year old. Her
friends are there and they’re always chatting.
There
was a conversation that they were starting to have with another girl which just
wasn’t something that they should have been talking about on messaging like
that. I had to be really strict with her
and I’m barely rarely strict with her because she’s pretty good and there’s few
things that I have to take control of or stop. I said, if she didn’t stop doing
this right now she was losing her phone because she wasn’t mature enough at
this point to have a phone and do the kind of messaging she was doing.
She
was arguing with a girl over the messaging app she was on. Everything that she’s saying is available for
everyone to see.
Dr. Pat: Yes.
Glenna: You talk
about cyber bullying and those things are really serious in this reality right
now and I had to take her phone and I had to chat with her about what she was
actually creating, and what that could look like and what that could create in
the future. Is this something that’s actually going to work for you.
By
becoming really serious about it and saying I’m going to take away your phone
which is discipline, she got softer enough for her to listen to me. It sort of
became serious for her because something she really likes in her life is her
phone. And then I was able to have a
conversation with her about it.
I
asked her what does this conversation create?
Having her, empowering her so she knows what it’s creating, not just
telling her. I’m letting her have an awareness of what she knows, really
different to me saying you can’t do this I’m taking the phone away you’re in
trouble. Does that make sense?
Dr. Pat: It does
and it is a different conversation.
We’ve gone through these periods now and this really points to the topic
of the show which is what do great parents do differently. Somewhere along the
way we decided that parenting is really a lot of work, too much work. It’s easier to take a child who’s in front of
the TV sometimes and yeah we’re all busy and we all work.
But
even if we have to do those kinds of things there’s this level of guilt and
shame we feel that we’re not there enough for them so therefore we don’t have
the right to direct, guide and discipline.
This is the conversation, how do we use questions to help a parent get
to that place where they can start to show up differently so that the children
could show up differently.
That’s
what you just described. You showed up differently right.
Glenna: Yeah. One
of the three things that I had, it’s not the only three things that great
parents do differently but there’s three things that really help. One of them
is to ask what your children require from you or if they require anything from
you, is one of the things is really- it’s such a great help when parents start
to do this.
The
homework I give parents is to ask all day long do my children require anything
of me now? Now this is often used in the light and heavy tools which I talk
about on the show. If they require anything then it would be a yes, yes they do
require something of me.
Most
parents find that most of the time they think their kids require something of
them and they actually don’t. If you’re
having guilt and shame because you’re putting your kids in front of the TV,
well guilt and shame are distracters from what you’re actually. We call them
distracters, those two things will keep you from awareness every single time
when you go into guilt or shame. You can’t actually see what’s going on.
If
you’re asking do my children require anything of me right now if you think
they’re in front of the TV for too long and you get a yes, then change
something. If you get a no well maybe actually the kid just had a full day at
school and they’re decompressing in front of the TV, or maybe they’re really enjoying
it. I’ve been really liberal with TV
with my kids their whole life and they’re amazing children, with great kids
doing very well.
From
every standpoint in this reality I’ve got great kids and they watch a lot of TV
and they still do. Now they just watch movies on the computer and every parent
is different. Sometimes that TV set is
what a parent requires to get the things in their life done too and it works
for both you and your children. If it’s
working for you that’s a question to ask, is it working for me to have my kid
in front of the TV right now yes or no?
If it’s a no change something, come up with a different activity.
Asking
what your children require of you can give you so much information about who
they are and who you are, and what your lives are actually like. The kind of relationships you’re actually
creating. It’s so often that they don’t.
When
our children actually require something from us, they let us know. They come up
and they find us, they call us. That’s a
really good clue that they require something and it feels like five seconds of
your time. Hopefully they just want to know that your energy is always
available to them.
Dr. Pat: Right,
what you’re talking about is really fascinating because now the dance begins.
Here we are and we are in the flow of this, I love what you just said about
most of the time they just want to know if our energy is available. Most of the
time and this is me now, with the most of the time analogy. Most of the time as
a parent you want to fix them, they just want to know if your energy is
available and you think they want you to stop and make two dozen chocolate chip
cookies.
Glenna: Yeah,
exactly. My youngest makes chocolate
chip cookies on her own all of the time.
She started baking and I was like do you want help? No she doesn’t want help, she had YouTube
videos that showed her stuff, she wanted to try it out. She makes some stuff
all the time. If I had been in the mix of it she wouldn’t have actually
acquired the skills she has which is actually better than mine in the kitchen
now with baking.
By me
not giving her too much of me, by me not thinking I have to be involved with
her, she actually empowered herself to create what she wanted. I was always
there, my energy was there if she had a question but I didn’t get involved
because she was creating what she wanted.
The
thing is when you’re aware of these things, everything is easier and things get
greater, and things get smoother. If I was forcing baking cookies on her because
I thought that was required as a parent and there wasn’t a question about it,
it wouldn’t have been fun for her. She may have stopped it and I’m kind of like
a control freak, I probably would have taken over anything. That’s the way I
would be.
She
was able to create that and she does amazing stuff with baking, I’ll just say
that.
Dr. Pat: It’s kind
of interesting when you get these subtle tidbits. Maybe you can go do something
else because honestly you’re right about it. This now gets back to a
conversation of empowered. Empowered
sometimes and this is really what I hear quite often is empowered children,
there’s this thing that happens when a child has a realization and a parent has
a realization that they’re both on the path to empowerment. For some parents it
leaves a hole in their life, a void you know what I’m saying.
It’s
like oh wow, you can do the cookies by yourself and I’m just going to fill in
the blanks. Now what am I going to do?
Glenna: That’s
another one of the three things, you just leapt into the other one that great
parents do different is they never give up their life for their children.
Dr. Pat: Wow,
we’re going to have to take a break and come back and talk about that. Right
there, that has so many layers to it right. So many layers to it, everything
from do I go out and have a lady’s night and leave the kids home? By the way Glenna here’s a question, is that
one more difficult for single parents both men and women or does it not matter?
We’re
going to take a short break. Before we do I want to make sure you can find out
more about Glenna. Go ahead and go to her website glennarice.com. When we come
back we’re going to take on that question but also I want to make sure you know
about an exciting event happening in Seattle on December and January. Gary Douglas coming to town as well.
Stay
tuned, when we come back we’re going to be talking about that. What is that place, that space, that void
about and how does it affect both parent and child? Stay tuned we’ll be right
back.
Wow
everybody welcome back and for more information about us go to
thedrpatshow.com, go to transformationtalkradio.com. If you want to take a
sneak peek on what is going to be happening in January, go ahead and go to
transformationradio.fm. Just take a
sneak peek, poke around at what’s being created there thanks to all of
you. Thanks to your feedback, thanks to
the feedback from our hosts and our co-hosts.
We
are literally attempting to incorporate just about every bit of feedback that
folks have given us. It’s taken us a bit longer than we thought but we’re very
excited about it. For more information about Glenna you can go to
glennarice.com.
Glenna
before we jump back into the conversation, you have a couple of events. I would
love for you to let people know first of all, we touched upon the tele-call.
How can folks be part of that and then please let folks know about some of the
other things happening including Seattle.
Glenna: So the
tele-call you can find that on glennarice.com and join there. You can join
monthly so you’re automatically signed up to every single month, or you can do
different shows individually and people are doing both and that’s on my
website.
This
weekend I’m really excited, I’m doing the Energetic Synthesis Instructional
Embodiment which is a body work targeting the connecting tissue using access
tools and that’s in Denver on the 3rd and 4th. If you’re in the Denver area on October 2nd
I’m doing Inter-night that’s open to every single person. The class actually
has some pre-requisite Barb’s class is one of them or permission of the
instructor which is me.
I
have a San Diego three day body class coming up in November, what’s really
exciting is yeah we’re coming to Seattle. Access is coming to Seattle in a huge
way. We have Gary Douglas, the founder of Access doing an access level two and
three class in Seattle. It’s the first time he’s been to the city, people are
signing up like crazy. The people that
have done access class are so excited and grateful in the Seattle area.
It
just got posted last week and the energy around it is I’m so happy. Seattle is
my favorite city in the world and bringing Gary there is just a dream. He’s
coming January 16th to the 19th and you can find that on
accessconsciousness.com website and sign up there, and find out more
information about Gerry.
It
requires access bar foundation level one as a pre-requisite for that class so
I’m teaching that up in Seattle with Dr. Andrew Pardella who works with me and
travels with me quite a bit. We’ll be
there teaching that the 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th
and 8th in the Seattle area. We don’t have a venue it, we just
posted this class so this is where you get all the basic tools I’ve been
talking about during the show and other shows that I’ve done.
This
is where you get bars which is body work which is the first time that people
often receive it in their life. You learn this amazing technique and foundation
level one we’ll show you different tools, a lot of them we’ve talked about and
a whole bunch more. There’s a whole bunch more and there’s other body classes.
It
was the class that really changed everything in my universe. I remember before
I took this I couldn’t talk in public at all. If someone would have asked me to
call into a radio show years ago I’d say you’re crazy. I’d never talk on the
radio, you don’t even know me. I was all
up in his face, he just wanted me to call up and ask a question.
About
six months later after doing bars foundational level one and using the tools he
asked if I’d like to be a guest on his show and I was like, oh okay sure. I
mean completely different. The things
that are in our way that we think are just part of our lives that always drive
us crazy, go away with these tools. You start to change with who you always
wanted to be and access who you are, I can go on and on about the foundational
classes. The information is amazing.
You
get so much in five days. I’m coming up
in Seattle to teach that, I don’t get to teach that very often because I’m so
busy teaching other classes. I’m really
excited.
Dr. Pat: What do
people have to do to register? I want to make sure that we get folks to the
right place to register. By the way for those of you out there, we’re actually
going to be featuring this event on the Dr. Pat Show website so you’ll be able
to see a picture, and click on it and go right to registration.
The other
thing we’re doing is we’re going to be putting information that you’ll be able
to hear between now and the time of the event so that you have enough
information about that. Also is there a
number that people can call Glenna if they have specific questions and they
want to find out more but they’re just not finding it on the website.
Glenna: My phone
number is 415-235-2807. The best website to direct them for registration is
drglennarice.accessconsciousness.com and Glenna has two N’s in it. It’s not up on my website because I just got
it posted it on there, but you can access that through glennarice.com also.
Dr. Pat: I love
it, we give you the news as it’s happening folks so that’s what we love about
this. Thank you Glenna and we’ll make sure folks have lots and lots of
information as we move forward on things.
This
conversation today, what are three things- well more than three things great
parents do differently. We were talking
about a couple of things before the break and as I said to you, there is this
little conundrum for a lot of folks between empowerment and discipline. But also there’s this idea around us having
to be perfect parents too, perfection. Just pure perfection.
You
ask a couple of really interesting questions around that. I remember the first
time you asked that question and I thought, just her asking that hurts. The question is what does it mean to be
willing to be a bad parent? Oops.
Glenna: That’s one
of the things that great parents do differently is they’re willing to be seen
as a bad parent. Not that you have to be a bad parent but someone is always
going to judge you. Your mother-in-law is going to judge you, other parents at
the school are going to judge you, the teachers will judge you. Someone is always going to judge that you’re
not parenting the way that they should or the way that they think you should,
or they would parent.
Willing
to be a bad parent is a willingness to receive their judgments is just interesting. It has nothing to do with me and how I
parent, if you’re creating parenting that works for you and actually you can’t
be worried and concerned about what other parents or what other poeple are
thinking about what you’re doing. Willing to be a bad parent opens up tons of
possibilities on how you can parent.
If you’re
trying to be a good parent you will never see anything that works for you
because you’re trying to fit into some box that has nothing to do with the kids
you’re raising because every child is different and every child’s parent parent
differently. You can’t see what works for you if you’re trying to avoid
people’s judgment or your own judgments about what a good parent or a bad parent
is.
That’s
one of the things, willing to be a bad parent and we just spoke about it, they
never give up their lives for their children.
Dr. Pat: That’s
the one before the break where I thought uh-oh, what? I don’t even know how to
begin to think about that. I’m stumped right here with that one.
Glenna: They have
a sense of self, parents that don’t give up their lives for their children it’s
not like you neglect your children. You
have your life, you’re living your reality and you’re raising children. It’s
not some mutually exclusive thing. You
have a sense of self and what that gives your children is they can have a sense
of self too, which is a really different way to be in this world.
To
know who you are, what you’d be, what you would choose that would create more
for you, what you would choose that wouldn’t work for you. Having that
awareness allows you to create a phenomenal life. Parents that don’t give up
their life for their children let children know that they don’t ever have to
give their life up for anyone else. There’s
a lot of stuff people talk about out there about I would give my life for my
children.
What
child actually wants that? I don’t want
my mother to give up her life for me, I want my mother’s life to be fabulous
also. I want her there for me when I
require it but not to give up her life. This is where you get that empty nest
syndrome and all those things when parents gave up their life for their
children and the children aren’t going to be there. They feel like something’s missing.
When
you never give up your life there’s nothing missing when your children start to
be who they are and do things without you.
It just creates more for everybody and I’m always asking parents what
else can you add to your life? What if
you had a phenomenal life and were a parent?
What if those things can both exist at the same time. It doesn’t have to
be one or the other.
Dr. Pat: Part of
this is, I don’t know about you but I’m prone to making a few mistakes here and
there, that’s kind of been with me most of my life. But as a parent you know it’s so hard to wrap
our minds around the idea that we actually make a mistake. The reason I’m
asking you about this because parents sometimes believe the stakes are so high
that making a mistake as a parent is absolutely devastating.
You
know we’re human beings aren’t we and the question I guess is, what do we do
about the idea of making mistakes? What
is it that we need as parents to A, acknowledge and B, do? What are some of the questions that help us
as parents move beyond “The big mistake.”
I mean
do we make big mistakes?
Glenna: That would
be a total judgment. That would be making a mistake and calling it a mistake is
creating a reality around something that showed up into a mistake. You’re
creating it that way.
One
of the great tools is what’s the right about this I’m not getting? Sometimes you can do things that don’t work
so well, oops that was a choice that didn’t work out so well. We make choices
and everything is a choice. If you don’t make a choice that doesn’t work, make
another choice. Mistakes lock things in
place and then you can dwell on it forever.
There’s
things that probably have shown up in you and your kid’s lives that didn’t work
out so well. What else can I do
different here? What does my child
require, what do I require h ere? What’s so right about this it will give you
clarity about what was actually showing up.
Sometimes
it’s things that look like mistakes possibly aren’t, if you’re not holding on
to anything with this staunch point of view it’s a mistake your kids won’t
either. Parents are blamed for kind of everything that goes on in a child’s
life, especially a mother. If you go to a psychologist everything that happens
that was bad it somehow went back to the mother.
this
is also are you willing to be a bad parent?
Because there are things that you did that if it doesn’t work for your
kids when they’re a teenager they’re going to blame you for them. Wow is that actually true for me, is what
she’s talking about actually true or he’s talking about? Is that actually right what they’re saying
because they can make you wrong for something today and tomorrow they’re your
best friend.
Willing
to be really flexible, all of the energy if you live in 10 seconds. Every
choice is 10 seconds and things are always changing, how would you like those
changes to be in your life? What would you choose to create the life that would
work for you every 10 seconds?
Dr. Pat: I want to
talk about that a little bit more. Actually I think it would be great to just
skip the break because I mentioned this earlier. This is really, let’s talk
about it from a parental point of view. The idea of having a decision made 10
seconds ago and revisiting it 10 seconds later, I don’t know that we have
learned that.
What
I’m trying to say is there’s this thing that happens of course when you become
a parent but as we look at this, how willing are we to let go of the decision I
made 10 seconds ago Glenna?
Glenna: Right,
it’s a decision you can’t. It’s a
decision, you decided it and it’s going to be stuck to you if it stops
working but it’s a choice to do
something a certain way. I’m trying to
think of a good example.
So
the decision that kids have to go to school but they have a choice for them to
go to school. They’re always choosing every day that you’re choosing that. You
can keep choosing the same thing over and over for 12 years with each kid. But
there’s sometimes days when going to school doesn’t work for anybody in the
house, the kids might be sick or it may be that it’s a bad day.
I remember
one day I couldn’t get the kids up to go to school and I was fighting and fighting
and I was like what is this? I was just
aware of something really strange. We stayed home and that was the day that one
of the school shootings happened in another city. Now what was I aware of this
morning? I was aware of the energy that no one should go to school today.
By
not having a decision that they have to go to school I just perceived that
awareness. It wasn’t in my class but when I heard that on the news later in the
day I was like wow, I would actually be aware of something that was happening
in my kid’s school. Because I can follow the energy and I don’t have decisions
it’s a choice, they probably wouldn’t go to school that day. That’s a huge gift for me to have that
awareness.
That’s
where decisions sticks you, it’s always choosing all the time. You’re
continually choosing things that work and don’t and if you don’t make a
decision you have more flexibility to follow the energy, to be aware of what’s
actually going on.
Dr. Pat: What I’m
really struck by and I guess it’s kind of more recent with me. Since we’re
talking about chocolate chip cookies. There are choices that we make all the
time. Imagine that it’s your job to put food on the table three times a day and
if it’s not on the table to make sure
that children have food. There are choices we make and I want to ask you about
this because it really does tie in to things that are happening in parenting in the world today. It has to do
around food.
I don’t
know how it is where you live Glenna but I know that there is a new level of
awareness around food that’s being served in schools, food that’s ending up on
the table for our children and these are choices that we make. But yet at times
we hear parents talk about them as if they’re not. I think food, nutrition is a huge
conversation around parents.
I
have heard more parents feel so bad, they’ve actually said this Glenna. I’m
such a bad parent, I’ve served pasta now three days in a row.
Glenna: Food is
huge, we can probably do a whole series.
Food, eating and kids and I have a different point of view. Just the
three meals a day isn’t a question, it’s a conclusion. What are we going to
have for dinner isn’t a question. Are
you guys hungry, do you want to have dinner tonight actually is. Are your bodies hungry?
I did
three meals a day and when I started doing it more of a question, when I
started doing more of the access I started looking at it different. Are my kids actually hungry, are my kids
doing food because I think they’re supposed to? Does it have anything to do
with their body and my children eat very weird and they’re very healthy.
Dr. Pat: Very
weird to the outside world.
Glenna: Very
weird, I would definitely be seen as a bad parent because none of my children
will eat breakfast. I’ve spent years trying to make breakfast because I enjoy
breakfast. This is where I’m willing to have my life and not give it up for the
children. If I make breakfast it’s just for me because they don’t like
breakfast.
I’ve
been making pancakes for years and no one would eat them. My eats will eat at 2
o’clock. My kids go to school without having a breakfast which is really going
against what every nutritionist is saying right now but they’re okay with it.
One of my youngest daughters said, “You don’t make the other kids eat
breakfast.” Because they were teenagers
at this point and they just wouldn’t. Why are you making me?
I’m
like I’m just making you breakfast because that’s what we’re told to do as
parents. It has nothing to do with you and your body and I stopped. I said if you
want breakfast let me know. Sometimes
she’ll grab a little snack bar or something but she doesn’t have breakfast. really
do a question with everything and give up the things that aren’t working and
your life gets easier, your kids lives get easier.
We actually
eat what their bodies will enjoy, what’s going to create more for their bodies,
what their body is requiring and what my body is too. Our diner times are very
strange. I cook a couple of things and there’s food that they can all eat and
everybody comes in and grabs what they want and does their thing. Sometimes we
all sit down and have a nice dinner together.
It’s
just based on the day and the energy, and what feels right to us.
Dr. Pat: Wow, I
want to know from you what it’s like to have the tables turned? Because what we’re not talking about is you
as a parent Glenna with all these tools that have somehow had to rub off on
your children. I’m very curious to know what it’s like to be on the other side
of the question.
Glenna: To be a
parent and have kids that have questions?
Dr. Pat: Or
throwing the questions back at you.
Glenna: They do,
when I’ve had a funky moment we’ve done the question about who does it belong
to which means a lot of the stuff going on in your life that you’re bothered by
doesn’t actually belong to you. Who does
it belong to opens up a possibility to see that it’s not yours. It’s like a
magical question to give you more awareness about things.
I’ll
have a funky day and my daughter will go, well who does that belong to mom?
Dr. Pat: It stops
you doesn’t it, it stops you. To think about it.
Glenna: It does,
they’re some of the greatest facilitators I know all three of them. What do you get when you have three beings in
my house that I really like, I like all three of them that actually have
questions available to ask me also.
Dr. Pat: And each
other now because this is really the energy of this. It is kind of where you’re passed on tools
for them. And getting back to the
conversation of the show today, what do great parents do? I mean part of this is to provide that
knowledge transfer, the tools for them to take out into the world, use within
your own home, use with each other the siblings.
But
now take that back out into the world that they live in, their friends, their
schools, their children- how well do they apply them in those environments at
this time. I know they’re growing but how well would you say that they do at
applying them?
Glenna: They’re phenomenal.
My youngest daughter was just actually on a radio show it’s called Teens Done
Differently and it was on Monday. She was a guest with me on a radio show about
using access tools as a teenager. She talked about how she was using it in
school and she actually blew the older girl about how she uses them, and me. I
was even surprised.
What
else is possible if it’s something she uses? What can I change with the teacher
to make my grade better? What does the teacher require from me for this
homework? Then she gets awareness on what actually is requires and she was a straight
A student last year using the tools of access.
She’s
also been available to negotiate crazy stuff with teenage girls and make it
work for her that I would have given anything to have those tools when I was 13
or 12, in middle school. It’s incredible and they all have this, they have a
sense of self that I was talking about. They don’t doubt themselves, they know
what works for them. They don’t come to
the decisions or conclusions that most kids do.
They’re
really flexible with how they look at everything and when something doesn’t
work, they give it up easily and create something different. They’re just an inspiration all the time for
me.
Dr. Pat: Now these
classes that you teach, are they open for kids, children?
Glenna: Yeah which
is probably one of the reasons why access is so wonderful for me is kids under
15 come free. The 16 to 18 they’re half
price and they need to pay some of that so it’s valuable to them, it doesn’t
matter if it’s a dollar or what. Fifteen and under they need to have a parent
that’s staying with them or at least someone that’s watching with them. You can
bring your kids to all classes, I’ve had many kids. I’ve had more kids in a
class than parents a few times.
The
kids their contribution is they don’t have this much reality stuff in their
world. Sometimes you’re asking them questions
and they look at the adults like you guys don’t know that?
Dr. Pat: I love
it. Glenna thank you so much for today. We’re going to make sure everybody
knows about some of these upcoming events and what’s happening. I would love to
make sure that everybody has Glenna’s website glennarice.com or
drglennarice.accessconscsiousness.com, and we’ll make sure you have that. One
last question, what is your personal message and what would you like to leave
us with today and thank you.
Glenna: Personal
message, you know what would lit take to be a great parent, what would you like
to choose if you could choose something different what would that be?
Dr. Pat: I love
that. Glenna Rice everybody, looking forward to you coming to town. Again go to
glennarice.com, you can also go to the Dr. Pat Show in a couple of days and
you’ll see a banner up there that will take you right to the events and much
more.
